Thelma Osatohanmwen
Nollywood actor, Jim Iyke has shared insights into why he finds it difficult to make friends, citing his need for growth and his intolerance for grudges as key factors.
During an appearance on the “Deep Dive” podcast hosted by comedian Teju Babyface, Iyke explained that his rapid personal growth often leaves others unable to keep pace. He emphasized that he can not maintain friendships with individuals who harbor grudges.
According to him, “We don’t hang around emotions. We don’t have time for it. That’s why I can’t be friends with everybody,
“I need somebody that won’t be hung up on my last act. I’m too transitional for it. My propensity for growth is at an alacrity that you can’t keep up with.”
The actor elaborated on his need for friends who understand his dynamic nature, noting, “Who I was yesterday is different from who I am today. So it’s not everybody that can keep up with that. I need somebody that I won’t call for 10 weeks and he is not in his feelings.”
Iyke shared an example of a friend with whom he has a deep, yet sporadic, connection. “There’s a time I didn’t call him for 4 months and he didn’t call me either. We don’t have to. But when we call, it’s value.”
He further clarified his approach to friendships, highlighting that he doesn’t desire daily interactions. “I don’t want a friend that I am in your life every day. It’s never going to work because I will never show up for your kid’s birthday. You find me wanting at your anniversary. When you have certain issues I might not be the one to reach.”
Despite this, Iyke emphasized his loyalty, stating, “But I tell you, when you call me and I sense that it’s not even a function of what you tell me, I sense that you need me, I’m going to move every mountain. So you decide the kind of friends you want.”