Hope James
Cheating on one’s partner in our society today have become a normal trend. According to some persons, it is not enough reason to leave a relationship or marriage as “it rains everywhere”.
We have however asked some married women this question, “why do you cheat on your husbands?” And these are what they had to say.
Ngozi, a 37-year-old married woman said, “I am currently cheating on my husband with another married man, and I am looking for an exit to my marriage of 10 years. I met my husband through a former colleague who was his cousin. My husband has been a verbal and psychological abuser to me and my son over the years, he constantly makes me feel worthless and turned me against my family and friends. I met my lover this year at my previous workplace.
“After spending time together, we became intimate, and my lover has been helping me come back out of the shell I had fallen into (my unhealthy marriage). My husband found out about us, but we still find ways to communicate. I am working towards getting my finances together so I can leave my husband next year.”
Another woman, Fathia said, “I dated my husband for 9 years before we got married. People that knew us when we were dating were so sure that we would get married due to the bond we shared. Two years after our marriage, my husband told me of his plan to marry a second wife who was already pregnant. My whole life fell apart that moment, I thought the heartbreak would kill me.
“Although, I am still legally married to my husband, I now have an affair with a 37-year-old man who means the entire world to me. This new guy is asking for my hand in marriage, but I won’t leave my husband for that new wife because I went through a lot with him.”
According to Jessica, “My husband and I were 5&6. We were so in love that people pray for our kind of love both in real life and on social media. In 2020, I found out that my husband had been dating a younger girl for over a year. I became very dick and depressed because cheating on me was the last thing I ever imagined would happen in my marriage.
That’s how I also agreed to date another guy to revenge for what my husband did to me. I fell in love with this guy, and we were always communicating. My husband found out and it caused a serious fight that we had to involve both of our families. I stopped dating the guy, but the only problem is I’m not sure if my newborn is for my husband or the guy.”